I’ve worked as an adult leader in the student choir, Vertical Generation (VG), at my church (Calvary Baptist Church, in Winston-Salem, NC) for the past five years. We call it a “choir“, and then we add, “but it’s so much more!” It is really hard to put a simple label on VG. One could say we are a “worship and ministry” group or a “service and arts” group or maybe we’re just a group of Christians seeking to lead others to worship God through the many gifts, talents and abilities given to us by God (singing, drama, dance, visual arts, service, etc.). Maybe we’re just a group of adult leaders and high school students seeking to be discipled and make disciples who make disciples. All of these would be true, but in the end we want to live out what we learn in obedience to the teachings of Jesus. We don’t want to just talk about what Jesus commanded, we want to do them and live them and tell others about them (Matthew 28:19-20).
This past week (June 27 – July 3, 2015) 145 of us traveled by bus to New York City for a week of partnering with various churches and ministries across four of the five Burroughs (sorry Staten Island). We were based in Queens and split into smaller ministry teams and worked in Manhattan, Queens, Brooklyn or the Bronx every day. We extended the ministry reach and impact of our partners, pointing all we encountered to our local church partners. We painted for them, cleaned their parks, cleaned and organized schools, canvassed neighborhoods to invite people to church and completed many other much-needed tasks.
All the while we were seeking to engage with the people of New York that we encountered along the way. Because we were all wearing matching t-shirts and because we were servicing in ways that seemed strange to many locals, we were asked a lot questions about who we were and what we were doing. These were opportunities to talk with folks, answer their questions and hopefully move these conversations into spiritual conversations. We knew everyone we encountered would fall into one of two categories – they would either be believers or non-believers. If we discovered someone was a believer, we listened for how we could encourage them and pray for them. If we learned someone was not a believer, we attempted to share the love of Jesus with them and explain the Good New of Jesus’ work on the cross; to answer any questions they might have and then ultimately to pray for them as well.
We know our team had an impact on our ministry partners and the people we encountered, but most everyone on the team would also freely admit, New York City possibly had an even bigger impact on us. I know I will not soon forget the lessons I learned in NYC. Part of why I’m writing this post is to document the lessons I learned for myself, but also to share them with others because you may be able to take something away from what I brought back.
If you’ve not heard, my wife, Jill, and I are evaluating how God can use us in church planting in a few years. Our children are also seeking to discern the role God would have in the growth of the church in North America. We are in a preparation period over the next few years, but are constantly seeking to discern in what direction God is moving us. At this point, Jill and I feel very confident we will be a part of a church plant somewhere in North America, but just don’t know in what role, what location or what time frame. In the meantime, we are seeking to grow and learn and become in tune to the church planting culture. By culture, I mean the struggles church planters face, the strategies that work and don’t work, how to pray for our cities, how to work with and receive teams and where the need is in North America that aligns with our talents and calling. We want to hit the ground as aware and prepared as possible, realizing that isn’t actually possible!
So as the opportunity to travel to New York City came about, it seemed like a God-ordained opportunity, a divine opportunity to spend a week in the largest city in North America (the metro area of NYC – 22,000,000+ people). My goal while in NYC was to be available, willing and bold while learning as much as I possibly could about whatever the Holy Spirit wanted to teach me.
My verse for the week was Ephesians 6:19-20:
“Pray also for me, that the message may be given to me when I open my mouth to make known with boldness the mystery of the Gospel. For this I am an ambassador in chains. Pray that I might be bold enough to speak as I should.“
Lesson # 1) When you identify yourself as a Christian, people may remember how your treat them as much, if not more, than what you say.
In a conversation with a self-professed atheist, “Shadi”, I sought to speak to him with gentleness and calmness and to share from a personal experience point of view. When I first encountered Shadi in a public park, he was in a very heated argument with a man claiming to be a Christian, but preaching a very different Gospel than I believe. I managed to peel Shadi away and engage him in a one-on-one conversation. At first he wanted to debate and argue, but I wouldn’t bite. After a few minutes, his tone and volume and aggressiveness changed and we began a 30-minute conversation about what each believed and why. Throughout our conversation I could see him wrestling with the things I was saying. As we ended our conversation, he told me I was different from other Christians he’d encountered (he came to the place where I met him many times a week just to argue with Christians). He noted I didn’t argue with him; I didn’t attack him or condemn him and most importantly, what I shared was based on my personal experience. I believe Shadi had probably heard most of what I actually said before. But as the Holy Spirit continues to work on him, what he’ll remember from our encounter was the love of Christ that reflected in the way I treated him.
Lesson #2) It’s more important that I’m “in the game” than if I hit a home run or score a touchdown.
These sports scoring analogies were both given to us as a group by two different church planters in NYC. One pastor, Kevin Cabe, the church planting partner-coordinator for NYC, challenged us to “hit singles and don’t try to hit home runs.” Steve Canter, a Send City Missionary with NAMB to NYC, affirmed our efforts in NYC helped “move the ball down the field.” We weren’t there to score a touchdown, but just advance the Light in the darkness of the city. Both of the scoring situations in the two sports analogies would equate to someone receiving and accepting the Gospel or being saved. Much of our work when we are on mission is a collective work. The lost will encounter the Gospel many, many times through many, many Christians before ultimately turning their lives over to Jesus Christ.
It’s important to have a “forward progress” mindset when evangelizing. If we go for the score every time, we will be disappointed; our expectations will not be met and this could ultimately lead to us taking ourselves out of the game and sitting on the bench. Solid players who hit the singles, rush for four or five yards, or passes the ball for an assist are the backbone in the advancement of the Gospel. It’s a collective effort; an effort of the church. Evangelism or sharing the Gospel is not an individual sport. In addition, we don’t save people anyway. The Gospel must be “preached” or proclaimed in order for the lost to hear. We know this from Romans 10. Paul writes,
“14 But how can they call on Him they have not believed in? And how can they believe without hearing about Him? And how can they hear without a preacher? 15 And how can they preach unless they are sent?”
It’s a simple plan – God’s only plan actually. God sends us to proclaim His good news. Each time someone hears the Gospel from us, we’re moving the ball down the field or are hitting a single. Sometimes, that single gets a man on base, other times it will drive in a run.
The take away is really just about being obedient and bold. To not shrink back from declaring the full plan of God (Acts 20:27). We are to engage people without expectations. We are to share the Gospel because Jesus commanded us to. Each situation and encounter will be different. My desire is that I can be in tune to the Holy Spirit and do what God wants me to in each situation where I have spiritual conversations with anyone.
Lesson #3) It’s good to have a strategy to begin and end a conversation
It’s good to have some ways that you are comfortable starting conversations with people, but it’s also a good idea to have some ways to end a conversation as well. If we go through life with a “Gospel Intentionality” we will naturally move casual encounters throughout our day to casual conversations and then move those conversations to spiritual/Gospel conversations. Engaging strangers in conversation is something that isn’t natural for most of us. Most of us like to keep to ourselves and keep our words short, general and insincere. To really engage in meaningful conversation requires good listening and observation. Once I can start a back and forth conversation with a little substance, I like to look for anything I have in common with the other person. This can help create rapport and help keep the conversation going.
In NYC, we had the occasion to hear some words of wisdom from the Lead Pastor of New City Church in Long Island City, Patrick Thompson. He said one of his most effective questions to move to spiritual conversations was, “So, what’s your spiritual background?” No matter where someone is or where they come from, they will have an answer to this question (even an atheist). Their response will determine where you go, but it isn’t a threatening initial spiritual question. It’s important to try to relate whatever you share to your own personal story. Your story is just that – it’s yours. No one can dispute it and our stories, when told from a personal perspective, are more believable and build connection.
At some point, you will need to end your conversation. The best want to do this is by asking the person you’re talking to how you can pray for them. This is an open-ended question that most people will have an answer for. Praying is also a right you usually earn because of the conversation that proceeded. We did an exercise in Central Park where we would ask for directions to various sites in the Park from complete strangers. Once we got the directions, we then asked if we could pray for them. In our group at least, we got “no” after “no” after “no”. There was no rapport. They didn’t know anything about us. It makes sense. Just walking up to a complete stranger and saying, “can I pray for you?” will usually be met with resistance. But if I engage a stranger in a casual conversation that builds and moves from topic to topic and I’m sharing personal stories and we move to talking about spiritual matters and we talk for 20-30 minutes, the same question is much easier to receive. My experience in NYC and other places is after I invest in a conversation, people will let me pray for them.
Lesson # 4) Good hospitality toward ministry partners can have a lasting positive impact
As a group of 145 students and leaders in a place as dense as NYC, we had to divide into smaller ministry teams, as I mentioned, in order to be agile and effective in the work we did there. While some teams were a bit larger, in general, we had two to three adult leaders and 10-12 students. Each team was assigned to a church or other para-church ministry. Our goal was to partner with them in the work they were already doing and extend their impact and influence in their communities during the few days we were with them. We traveled anywhere from 40 minutes to over an hour each way to work with them. As a potential future church planter or church plant team member, I saw the value in how important it is to host partner teams with the highest hospitality possible and to show respect and appreciation to the team serving with you.
Teams coming to partner in ministry are a blessing. They multiply the work of a pastor and the usually small team of the church plant. There may be potential church planters in these groups. There may be people who’ve never worked with a church plant or been on a mission trip. My contact with them and how I treat them and care for them and express my appreciation to them, can have a big impact on what the team members take away.
As a church planter, I would want to begin relationships during this time. I want to enlist prayer partners; encourage them to maybe even return to work with me again. If I look at these teams as just manual labor to do some work for me and forgo the relational aspect of our time together, who knows what may be lost in the team members from their experience with me.
Lesson # 5) There isn’t a harvest problem, there is a labor problem
Jesus told His disciples of this as they waited on the Holy Spirit to come. In Matthew 9:37-38, Jesus said, “The harvest is abundant, but the workers are few. 38 Therefore, pray to the Lord of the harvest to send out workers into His harvest.” and in Luke 10:2 “2 The harvest is abundant, but the workers are few. Therefore, pray to the Lord of the harvest to send out workers into His harvest.“ Just about every Send City Missionary, such as Kevin Canter (New York City) and Bob Shelton (Calgary, Canada) would tell you the same thing because there is still a labor problem today.
“We don’t have a harvest problem, we have a labor problem here in New York City” – Kevin Canter.
“The biggest limiting factor in pushing back lostness in Calgary isn’t the responsiveness of the residents, but the lack of church planters. The city needs church planters who will come and stay.” – Bob Shelton
My wife Jill and I are seriously evaluating where God can use us in church planting in North America, but we are also praying that God will raise up others to partner with us and praying others will make themselves available to go to different cities as well. We, the church in North America, need to collectively join in praying to God, as Jesus tells us, to raise up more laborers. But be warned, you may be the answer to this prayer. I challenge you to regularly pray for more laborers and to place your “yes” on the table, letting God know what ever he asks, your answer will be “yes.”
So, in summary, it was a week well spent on mission. There were many other lessons I learned in NYC, but these were the major ones. In addition to lessons learned, I grew personally. God gave me opportunities to be bold, and I was bold. God gave me opportunities to have spiritual conversations with complete strangers and I conversed. God gave me many opportunities to share the full Gospel with people who have not accepted it and I proclaimed. God gave me many, many divine opportunities to pray with people to encourage them and love them and I reflected Christ. As exciting as it was to see the Holy Spirit working in me, it was overwhelming to see the Holy Spirit working in everyone else as well. Our trip to NYC was one none of us will soon forget.
I guess one bonus lesson I learned was to always be willing to learn from others. As we partner together in Kingdom work, our collective experiences certainly make us more effective. So, keep an open mind to learning from all you encounter. I pray these lessons I’ve returned with from NYC will help you as well as you seek to follow God’s direction as well.